Sometimes I get confused about the way some things are done in dating and I feel like I am the only one who questions things. One dating practice that is strange to me is the break up process.

When I am dating someone, I spend my time learning about him. I do this so I can analyze whether we would be a good match, but when I decide we are not, I break up with him. Call me picky, but I know what I want and this makes sense to me, but for some reason this takes a lot of guys off guard. They seem to think the breakup should be a group decision. I don’t get that at all.

I can understand why any other decision in a relationship could be a group decision, but I don’t get why this would be. Maybe someone could help me out with this and write me a letter to the editor, but I think this should never happen. I have had many experiences with this situation, but the worst of them happened last spring.

I dated a guy for a couple weeks who made breaking up a nightmare for me. He flat out wouldn’t let me break up with him. It was amazing. When he couldn’t get a hold of me, he contacted my roommate. She got several calls within a class period before calling him back, and she confirmed my suspicions that he would not be letting me break it off. That day I talked to him again and cleared things up, but that night he asked me if I wanted to go on a walk. After 15 minutes of walking he convinced me to take him back for a little bit longer.

If that wasn’t enough, he called me that night and told me he may have a hard time trusting my decisions in the future since I was so confused about this one. He is crazy and wrong about this. I knew it had to end.

Many guys have his problem in smaller amounts. What they need to know is that there doesn’t need to be a reason to break up. A girl should be able to break up without any reason apart from that she wants to. If it is what she wants, then it is just as valid as what the guy wants. It is hard for guys to understand what they don’t want to understand. This is probably the case with breakups.

I think a breakup is a personal decision. If anyone can clear things up for me and explain why guys seem to do this, I would love to read it and share it with UVU.

Response to the breakup